We can think of our shared lives as a gigantic jigsaw puzzle that we are assembling together. My piece might be part of a waterfall, while yours might be part of a rainbow. We each have a different role to play. We keep centered and effective when we focus on doing “what’s mine to do” and let others do the rest.

Try this for a week: Each day notice a time when you feel really centered. What were you doing? How was it linked to your life purpose?

However, I can be harmful through silence. If I fail to speak up when something needs to be said or someone needs to be defended, then I have responsibility for the harmful consequences of that silence. I can also “wound” another person by withdrawing into silence as a punishment.

Try this for a week: Each day notice one time when you feel particularly centered or “in the flow.” Surround that moment with a few seconds of shining silence and see how you feel.